Military Wife Confessions

We are about 30% through Steve's deployment.  Communication has been going alright and for a few weeks he'd been really attentive and e-mailed me a lot and it was great.

This past week I have heard nothing. He's been on facebook posting stupid "Dumb and Dumber" and "Anchorman" quotes at least 5 times, commenting people's photos, statuses, etc.. yet, not so much as a "hi" to me.

This is pissing me off. Like, to no end. I've sent him a few emails and commented on one of his FB statuses. I'm at the point where I'm like - F U, I'm not gonna email or write you or anything until you make the next move. You don't care to talk to me? I don't care to talk to you.

I know I shold probably be more understanding- but if I didn't hear from him and he wasn't online and I knew he wasn't at his FOB, I would be understanding. My other friends husbands have heard from them- I know that Steve has been online, I know that he's been on his FOB all day doing whatever whatever. Like, UGH- so frustrating.

Is this normal? Is this a normal thing to be feeling? Resentment towards him? I'm literally like "F this" right now. I'm done checking my e-mail 24/7, keeping my phone attached to my hip and staying up late in hopes of getting a phone call.

ARRRRGH.

The EXACT same thing happened with me and my husband!!! Like almost identical. All I can say is next time he is able to phone home talk to him about it, doing it over the internet just never solves it. I think my husband just didn't know what to say. He was miserable, missed me and wanted to be home and he didnt always want to be writing that. Just make sure you explain to him how much it helps you to even get a "Hey I was thinking about you today" or "I miss you" Guys just don't always get that so make sure you tell him! Hang in there! It will be better when he is back!!!!

I haven't had that sorte of problem yet, but fact is no one knows what is going through their heads when they are gone... it can really be anything. I think the most likely is probably something like Sheila said. Maybe he is having a bad phase right now, homesick, missing you...whatever and doesn't want to make you feel bad too.

Sheila is right be patient, hang in there and as soon as you get the chance get to the bottom of this...and tell him how that makes you feel

Thanks, girls. I will definitely express how I'm feeling whenever we do finally talk.

It's so hard..

woah.. that sounds tuff but im defenatly with you on this one. if that was my husband id be wondoring what the heck is going on as well. i think what you should do is maybe just ignore him intil he does the next step which is talk to you in a decent conversation, but dont go off on him either. Just let him know your there for him when he needs to talk about it maybe something is bothering him or he feels uncomfortable to a certain situation in sure things will get better. Just keep your cool and let him come to you.